September 7, 2017

Honor of Men

Posted in true story tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , at 2:53 am by Broken & Brave

My daughter shared some thoughts from her religion teacher about how our culture has lost it’s compassion because of the feminist movement. Though controversial, I think I may on some level agree. Here’s what I see…

I think that we are loosing the beauty of each gender’s unique qualities. Women are wired to be nurturing and men are wired to be warriors. I think women can be strong and accomplish great things, but there is so much to be said for a man who knows how to be a man and stick up for, protect and provide for a woman. A man who knows how to lead and hold his position. One of the greatest draws, ok THE greatest draw, that pulled me to my husband was the absolute knowing that I felt safe. So much so I would have to say confidently that most people feel safe around my husband. He is definitely valiant to the core. That’s a big deal. When you feel safe you feel free.

Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. Freedom on countless levels. If you don’t have freedom…it may not be God in it.

How refreshing to discover that chivalry and true gentlemen still exist…I know because of my husband and the four young men he is raising. He has taught all of our boys to always have their head on a swivel and watch out for and stick close to the significant female (in this case…me) and the weakest or smallest individual (in this case…our youngest son).

My boys have been reminded of this with consistency for several years now and I’ve experienced the fruit of it. One evening I was out in town with just the boys, my husband not with us, and had a questionable person (a man) loiter about our presence. My oldest two sons were on it! They assessed, saw and hemmed in close to me pulling the younger two boys in tight also. We then moved out of the building. SAFE! It was drawing close to closing time so there were next to no other people in the store. This person was both odd and suspicious, but that valor kicked in and my boys rose up. I felt both proud of them and protected by them all at the same time.

But it’s difficult for a man to lead and own his position in the family when the significant female or wife won’t let them.

I’ve counseled women for years who have complained to me about what to do in any number of scenarios with their spouses. Situations and circumstances where they don’t agree with their spouse on a decision to be made. Unless the issue is something that goes against the law, human dignity or Biblical mandate– I have always encouraged the woman to submit.
I tend to instruct her to give in to her husband’s decision and watch God honor her. She may still disagree with her husband, but God will either curve that decision around and change her husband’s heart or God will change hers.

God honors a wife who knows how to trust her husband as the leader of the family.

If he cares enough to ask your opinion on the decision and wants your support, then he cares what you think and values your partnership and opinion. Honor him by stepping back and elevating him and his heart desires. Nothing will empower a man more! I think sometimes men quit leading because they are simply afraid to. They feel disempowered by those they mean to lead.

“A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.”

Proverbs 31:10-13

 

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“The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish tears it down with her own hands.” Proverbs 14:1

Have you ever met someone who is always trying to fix something that isn’t broken? Doesn’t make sense does it, but when we think in terms of people not objects it happens all of the time. Why do women try to fix other people? Somehow the gift to nurture got tangled with the world and out came a discontent with letting people be themselves. It’s not always women who do this, there are men who are fixers. Just the same way not all women are “fixers”. Let’s honor our husbands by not fixing them… let’s just love them and let God decide what needs fixing.

“It is better to live in a corner of the roof Than in a house shared with a contentious woman” Proverbs 25:24

When you get fixing you have become the proverbs woman who is compared to a woman who is a constant dripping. You may find your husband avoiding you instead of wanting to spend time with you. Get back to encouraging and lifting him higher. Most men live for the praise of the ones they love the most. After all, you must have thought that he was pretty ok enough to marry him.

Honor him by honoring who he is today….

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July 4, 2017

Seeded: Our Nations Heritage

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , , , , , , , at 7:06 am by Broken & Brave

Seeded in Deep Waters

The Declaration of Independence was signed by 56 men, many of whom gave their livestock, livelihood, homes, property and very lives to defend. The document may as well be signed red because of all the blood and sacrifice shed. This is the bold and heroic belief the early settlers of this nation felt. They loved their homeland of England, but they were tired. They were weary of injustice and financial oppression and control of personal freedoms. They had a dream for more. So what looked like rebellion to King George, looked like hope for the American settler.

Five men compiled this sacred piece of history and signed it into law in the Continental Congress. It was a declaration like none other. Thomas Jefferson, who was known for his ability to write penned the document, John Adams, Phillip Livingston, Roger Sherman, and Benjamin Franklin. Roger Sherman was the only of the 5 men who did not sign the Declaration (he was Livingston’s cousin but not a member of the Continental Congress).

This document was handwritten in cursive. One more reason I feel it is imperative our successive generations continue to learn how to read and write in cursive. If this skill is lost, we will reach a point where no one can read these original documents of our heritage. I guess that’s a different post for a different day…

I have always been drawn to those who possess deep courage. Those who stir deeply with deep rivers of passion channeling about their soul.

As a child I loved swimming in the deep end of the swimming pool. I loved to hold my breath and skim past the bottom holding my breath for as long as I could. I would rise to the surface to refill my lunges, but then I’d quickly plunge to the bottom again.

Not everyone likes to swim in waters deep. Some prefer shallower things.

It’s important to have a healthy respect for water. Just as it is important to have a healthy respect for God’s Sovereignty and our nations democracy. A deep respect for those who never knew me, yet they gallantly and valiantly sacrificed what they may never enjoy themselves, for the future posterity of humanity. They believed they were part of something bigger than themselves. Personal wants and desires must die at a level of commitment so high.

These are the things that stir me deeply and cause my respect and admiration to rise high.

God bless the men who stained the ground red; who layed down their lives, who paid the price through the sacrifice of their fortune, their cattle, their bread. They left their wives as widows and children as well…they did it for me, so I could be free. They paid it forward in a way I am afraid modern day American doesn’t understand. I will never forget what they did for me…liberty is never free.

Happy Independence Day. Celebrate richly…

~Nicole

“There is no greater love than this: that a person would lay down his life for the sake of his friends.”
John 15:13

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March 27, 2017

Keep Going!

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , , , at 6:33 am by Broken & Brave

 

IMG_9650“When the going gets tough, the tough get going.”

Don’t give up when God speaks…
Though they may grow peculiarly, Miracles do happen!

It never matters really what you say you’re going to do, it’s what you actually do, the follow through that magnifies the respect of others and the breakthrough. Are you equipped to overcome? Of course you are. But do you believe it? Do you believe you have the resolve necessary to do something extraordinary with your life? You will always fulfill your destiny, on time, when your heart is fully aligned with God’s ideas for your life. He charts the coarse, He paves the way, and he is looking for people to do great things and are willing to stick and stay. So many settle for lesser blessings because when it got hard, they quit. That’s why they say the high road is the less travelled road. Few people are willing to complete the journey.

I encourage you to change your mind. Change how you think. Upgrade your perspective of what “hard” or “difficult” really looks like. Put yourself in the shoes of other people, those who will benefit from your perseverance:

•Your family for instance.

•Yourself.

•Perhaps countless people you have never met and never will meet.

You’re life is not your own. You are apart of something bigger than “you”.

No matter what is in your heart to do or achieve, if God planted it then He makes a way for it. Just remember, many miracles go unnoticed because they are disguised as perseverance!
Don’t give up! God will always work it out. He’s got plans of His own. ~Nicole

“But we are not of those who shrink back and are destroyed, but of those who have faith and preserve their souls.”

Hebrews 10:39